6 Tips to Handle the Conflict in a Relationship

 No relationship without conflict or misunderstanding but what we need it to know how to handle it to have a better and enjoy our relationship

1. Recognize that some conflict is part of any relationship. Whether the difference is something simple—
you prefer the window open while you sleep and your partner wants it closed—or something more complex, like a difference in religious beliefs, what’s really important is not so much what the disparities are, but how you manage them, both as individuals and as a couple.

2. Secondly, let discuss a study that found how much our expectation can impact the success of a relationship. We look for a partner who'll make us feel admired, valued, and loved. Since conflict and criticism and can diminish those feelings, it’s important to find ways to reinstate them. One valuable tool comes from the business world: Rather than giving criticism on its own, it’s useful to make a “sandwich,” putting any negative comment between two positive ones. For instance, “You are really good at finding solutions for all kinds of problems. It would be so great if you could find a solution for the clutter in our bedroom. And you know, I love that you take such good care of the plants! They are just beautiful!” (Just be careful that any compliment you give is one you genuinely mean. The sandwich only works if it's honest.)

3.Criticize a specific behavior or situation,not your partner’s personality. When I’m working with a couple, this is one of the first ground rules I ask them to set up. Complaints about personality are extremely unproductive, in part because the other person's automatic response is to defend himself or herself,and in part because such complaints undermine the feelings of being valued and loved that are key to any relationship’s well-being. And, of course, personality is a lot harder to change than behavior, so you’ll get a lot further if you present your concerns in terms of actions.

4.It’s always tempting to put a complaint in terms of time. “You always leave your shoes lying around,” or “You never pay the bills on time.” But once again, specific concerns are easier to address and to change than generalizations. It’s also helpful to address conflict in terms of what youfeel (most conflict resolution manuals start with this idea) instead of what the other person has done:
 “I know I’m a neat freak, but I felt so uncomfortable when I had to step over your shoes when I walked into the house just now.”

5.When possible, a genuine offer to help with a difficult situation can ease conflict. For instance, if your partner is often late (while you are often on time), ask if you can help along with talking about how you feel in specific situations and offering concerns compliment sandwich-style:  “I hear that you need to see the opening credits of this movie to get the full story; I really would like to get there a little early. Is there anything I can do to help you get out of the house early tonight?”

6.Finally, remember that some things simply can’t be changed. Some differences may be deal breakers, but many are simply part of a package of someone who is not the same as you. And thatpackage may be enriching your life.
it simple if you can take an action on those 6steps and you will have a happy relationship.